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What is Love?

With Valentine’s Day just around the river bend I have found myself thinking about love. I was feeling like I was shutting down and being bitter about it all, and so I asked myself what would be necessary to keep my heart open and the love flowing freely. I went around in circles until I realized I didn’t know what love actually was. Sure I have felt it, but I’ve never tried to define it. It’s one of those feelings that isn’t exactly easy to pin-point because it varies in degree. However, like any type-A person, I knew I had to try to hash out what love meant to me, and I, of course would do so by making a nice and accessible list.

I wrote “LOVE IS…” and then let the pen flow.  But before I tell you what came up, can someone please cue the Haddaway music?

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Love is ego-less. It doesn’t compare or contrast. It doesn’t need an identity. It is everything and nothing. Love just is.

Love is communication. It speaks from the heart. When the heart feels deeply it shares its sentiments with the world.

Love is spirit. It is the uniting force that threads the universe together. It is an omnipotent energy with the power to create and destroy, to re-create and re-destroy.

Love is vulnerable. It expresses all of its deepest and scariest truths.

Love is intimate. It brings people together physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

Love is a kind act. We express love through action. How we treat others is ultimately how we treat ourselves. Through kindness to others, we bestow love on ourselves.

Love is trust. Love knows best. Love knows all. Love sees the bigger picture and it trusts the journey.

Love is reciprocal. Give it. Take it.

Love is real. Love gets real. Love is not a mythical unicorn. We’ve all experienced love’s many truths and lessons.

Love is non-attachment. It doesn’t need to control or be controlled. It allows itself to flow freely in non-resistance.

Love is passion. It is the driving force within us that allows us to create and support life. Love is music, art, food, travel, politics, sports, religion, work.

Love is healthy. When given the proper care, love grows and blossoms like a beautiful flower.

Love is barrier-breaking. Love sees no borders or boundaries. It knows only one language, that of itself. It makes no distinctions of race, class, gender or creed.

Love is soulful. It emanates from the deepest part of our being and seeps from our pores.

Love is unique. It differs from friendship to friendship, family to family, couple to couple.  It is colorful and funky. It wears polka dots and floral, suspenders and bow ties.

Love is you.

YOU are love!

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I See the Moon, and the Moon Sees Me; A Tribute to Connection

I have come to realize recently that with all the twists and turns that that my life’s journey has taken thus far, across languages and cultures and countries near and far, the thing that remains ever constant in my life are amazing human connections. Though many miles (and even more kilometers) separate me from the vast majority of my soul mates, I live in constant gratitude for the connections I have made.

I’ve been ruminating on connection a lot lately, and something in the back of my brain keeps bringing me back to Malcolm Gladwell’s book, The Tipping Point. One thing that clearly stood out to me in his book was his classification of people as: mavens,salespeople, and connectors. In a nutshell, the mavens are the ones who gather and distribute information, the salespeople are the charismatic persuasive negotiators, and the connectors know and introduce lots of people.

Let’s just say that, at the core of my being, I am a connector. I know a lot of people.

I also LIVE  for connection. I live to make connections, and more importantly to sustain them. Therefore, I am not only a connector, I am a communicator.

One remarkable thing I have manifested for myself is a multitude of real, deep and intimate connections with a variety of friends and strangers alike. I have met amazing people on trains, planes and buses. On little French street corners and on Spanish  hiking trails.  I’ve met people in bars, coffee shops, yoga classes, clothing stores, lecture halls and dance floors. Each connection life altering in its own way.

Once we’ve met, I am never the same person again.

I have moments (like I am currently having) when I feel a total sense of awe and wonder at all the incredible people I have attracted into my life. How lucky could a girl get?! All these people who are  filled to the brim and boiling over with passion! Passion to change the world, to be leaders, and communicators, and educators, entertainers and healers. Each with their own different and unique enthusiasm; people who believe deeply in the power of food, and technology, the great outdoors, yoga, spirituality, social justice, travel,street art, music, improv comedy, language learning,  dance, lyrical poetry …and the beat goes on.

Being a connector/communicator, I do weird things like make lists of people I haven’t talked to in a while. I send songs on Spotify, emails and text messages. I also  indulge in lengthy phone conversations and especially Skype video calls.

Because to me, it is incredibly important to sustain relationships with the people I know and love; they are my motivation and my mirror. They push me to be the best possible me, and remind me that I am already the best possible me. They uplift me, they enlighten me, they illuminate me.

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So whether it is a 2 a.m. Skype date or an e-mail or a road trip or even a positive vibe that bridges the physical distance between us,  our connection makes my soul sing, my feet dance and my heart leap.

If it has been a while (and even if it hasn’t been), I would love to hear from you.

LOTS OF LOVE,

Lizzie

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